Heartwarming “Paper Toasts”


The 30th anniversary “Paper Toast” mailing created by Book Designer Nicole Miller and sent to past and present clients of Modern Memoirs, Inc., summer 2024

On September 27, 2024, Modern Memoirs held a dinner at the Blue Heron Restaurant in Sunderland, Massachusetts to celebrate several milestones: the 30th anniversary of our company’s founding by Kitty Axelson-Berry; the 20th anniversary of Director of Publishing Ali de Groot’s employment; and the five-year anniversary of my purchase of the business with my husband, Vice President Sean St. Marie. In anticipation of the dinner, we sent a mailing to past and current clients, inviting them to reply with a “Paper Toast” to read aloud around the table.



I saved each card as it was returned to us, waiting to share them with the staff at our dinner. Honestly, as the weeks wore on, it was sometimes very hard to keep the Paper Toasts to myself since I knew how much they would mean to everyone. When the date finally arrived, colleague Emma Solis helped me hang the dozens of cards we’d received around the dining room as impromptu party décor. Then, following my own toasts to Kitty, Ali, and the rest of the staff, we each took turns reading clients’ Paper Toasts aloud to one another.

The effect was just what I’d hoped it would be: we felt our clients’ presence with us as we fondly recalled them and their projects, and we delighted in their reflections on their publishing experiences. Some messages were short and sweet, some were long and heartfelt, and one was even written in rhymed verse! All were deeply appreciated, and with thanks to Publishing Intern Lily Fitzgerald, who retyped each one for posterity, here is a sampling of Paper Toasts to Modern Memoirs, Inc. at 30 years:

Andy Stephens and family:

To thirty years of stories told, 
of memories captured, hearts consoled.
To Kitty, who began this quest
in ’94, she gave it her best.
To Ali, with two decades strong
her passion and skill, helped everyone along
and Megan and Sean St. Marie, five years to cheer
for guiding this ship with vision so dear.
To all the staff, whose hearts and hands
have crafted books across our lands, 
memoirs, genealogies, each line and page
brims in joy and wisdom, age to age. 
Here is to the work you love to do
in the stories that bind us all, old, and new. 
May Modern Memoirs thrive and grow
with good cheer, we raise our toast.    

Hilde Wohl Adler: I chose Modern Memoirs in the first place because I read Kitty Axelson-Berry’s autobiography online and discovered she was once Kathy Lebow and a student in my seventh-grade physical education class back in West Hempstead [NY]. 

The road was smooth from the start. She helped me produce a fabulous professional looking book, The Way It Was, about my life from 0 to 10 in Nazi Germany. And then after Kitty left, Ali helped me with a very different project, I Am NOT Old Enough, about moving into a retirement community. Both Kitty and Ali gave me gentle guidance while allowing me to keep my voice. Both experiences were incredibly meaningful, productive, and fun!


“The book has been an amazing source of laughs, eye rolls, and amazing memories of a great life.”

A toast to you, Modern Memoirs on your 30th anniversary. And Ali, Megan, and Sean, on your anniversaries. I hope you have many more years of doing this wonderful work, helping writers produce amazing books.


John and Mary Jane Bower: Our experience with Kitty and Ali was magical. John was in the early stages of FTD and was losing his language abilities as a result. He now is completely unable to communicate verbally but finds great joy when we read his book aloud to him! The gift that keeps on giving!

Brooks Bradford, Jr.: Congratulations! We are so happy we had a book from my dad and the unexpected friendship created by Kitty and my dad! The book has been an amazing source of laughs, eye rolls, and amazing memories of a great life. Wishing you another amazing 30+ years. Sending big Texas love!

Ali de Groot: Congratulations! I am one of the lucky people who can say I love my job. I owe it all to Kitty for believing in me over 20 years ago. And Megan and Sean couldn’t be better at keeping the Modern Memoirs flame blazing and gathering the most caring and professional team of stars. Thank you all!

David Dearinger: I am proud and happy to have had my book published under the expert guidance of Ali, Megan, and all at M.M. A toast on your  anniversary and always. 

Mary Alice Dillman: Modern Memoirs, Inc. rests its honor with marks of distinction on this 30th anniversary in the publishing world. Celebrate Kitty upon the establishment of the company in 1994. Have all my laurels in 2012 and 2022 go to de Groot’s 20-year employment anniversary. Ali was the shining star of trust, talent, and communications. I worked with her closely. She answered my questions with patience and heart, for I was a beginner in the publishing world, and I needed help to make my copy of my autobiography more perfect. By 2022, I was more experienced. The whole crew of writers and publishers graciously supported me. Thank you.

Brian Dunsirn: Here’s to Modern Memoirs’ 30th anniversary! I began working with your company in 1999 when we created my father’s memoir, I Dunno. Twenty-five years later you helped me create my own memoir, The Sky’s the Limit. The purpose of creating my book was to allow our eight grandchildren to understand the challenges and opportunities of achieving success and happiness in life. 

The experience turned out to be more valuable for me than I had expected. The reflection on family, friends, achievements, and failures helped me to realize what is truly important in life. It also helped me focus on the future and what remains to be accomplished. 


“The reflection on family, friends, achievements, and failures helped me to realize what is truly important in life.”

It was fun working with all of you! Good luck with your future storytelling. 

Joe Garrett: Thank you for the two wonderful books!


David Gryboski: To Ali, Megan, and the entire Modern Memoirs team! In the final months of my father’s life, seeing his story (and the final galley of Me and Shakespeare) in print was a gift that brought immense joy and satisfaction to his life, and preserving his memory has meant more to me and my family than words can express. 

Congratulations on a wonderful achievement and thank you for all that you do. Cheers to another 30 years!

James A. Heffernan: I had the most excellent good fortune to work with Ali and the team on two of my books, and those were the best publishing experiences I’ve had. It seems things are going strong at Modern Memoirs, and for nothing could I be more happy and grateful. Go another 30! or 60!

Harold Hirshman: With care and passion, joy and encouragement, Kitty and Ali coaxed and cajoled and comforted, so the impossible came true—my books. 

Eileen Hultin: Congratulations to Modern Memoirs on so many anniversaries: Thirty years since the founding by Kitty Axelson-Berry, twenty years since Ali de Groot joined the company, five years since Megan and Sean St. Marie purchased the business. And...three years since I had the good fortune to hear about Modern Memoirs. 

What a happy occasion for me when I learned from Megan, after reading one of the earliest chapters, that my manuscript would be accepted. It was such an exciting experience working with Ali for the next several months, that I almost wish I could write a second life story, but sadly, I had only one to write about.

May Modern Memoirs flourish for many more years.


“I almost wish I could write a second life story, but sadly, I had only one to write about.”

Paul Jensen: A toast to all my friends at Modern Memoirs—Thank you for helping me bring my heartfelt words to parchment. It is with gratitude that I lift my glass to your continued success!! Have a wonderful time of it...


Lawrence Kohn: Best wishes on your various anniversaries. A special thanks to Ali, who worked with me on conception, and organizing, and liaison to Megan and her colleagues. The result was a fitting anniversary gift of my collected poems. This book was formally presented to me by my wife, Laurie Buchalter, in a re-wedding ceremony in our living room—Portraits: poems to mark 50 years

Lynda Sun Lee: Congratulations on keeping up the great legacy of Modern Memoirs started by Kitty. Wishing you all continued success and many more satisfied customers!

Marian Barrett Leibold: Congratulations on this great accomplishment. I have enjoyed my relationship with Modern Memoirs and look forward to more projects. Thank you for your commitment to the written word!

Barbara Levy: Congratulations Modern Memoirs, Inc. on your 30th anniversary! Seventeen years ago the Westport Woman’s club celebrated their 100-year anniversary with a wonderful, informative memoir, A Rare Woman’s Club. With Ali de Groot’s beautiful editing and support throughout the project, the book was published and enjoyed by its members and the Westport community. 

Our office manager continues to display the book on her desk for new members and prospective members to browse through the club’s history. Thank you Ali and the Modern Memoirs Staff.

Anna Markus: Dear, dear Kitty: you are marvelous—as a social activist, an entrepreneur, and as a friend. Thank you for all the positive energy you put into the world! Congratulations on establishing such a valuable business and for helping me get through our deeply meaningful Bat Mitzvah. 

Dear Megan and Ali, Congratulations to you for your successful new chapter of Modern Memoirs. What a marvelous job you both do! Thank you for helping me complete Delicious Air and Refuges. Neither would have been done without you. 

Lili Lunny Neuhauser: When my mother found Kitty and M.M., there was great excitement as we knew she had found the right people to help tell her story. Keep Smiling: Life on Three Continents was the fantastic result! What a gift to Liane’s family and friends. Her story continues to inspire and remind us to enjoy life, even through hardship and keep smiling!


“toasting your caring and the compassionate understanding you have for your clients, their words, and their aspirations.”

Elizabeth Pannier: Congratulations to Modern Memoirs, Inc.’s 30th anniversary.


When I recall writing and working on my mother’s remembrance book Walking Together, I am filled with the process of remembering my very dear friend, my mother, and the friendship and encouragement from Ali de Groot as she guided and directed my story. Her encouragement and clear understanding of my memoir was the best possible support to offer an elder writer. I still remember that time writing with a full heart and a sense of inner peace. Many thanks to Ali de Groot’s kindness, sensitivity, and support.

Best wishes to you all in the years ahead! May you continue to deliver many great stories and assist many other writers. 

Roland Parent: Congratulations and best wishes to all at Modern Memoirs on your 30th anniversary, and many thanks for a wonderful lifetime experience, the publication of my Sentimental Voyage: A Maritime Memoir in 2021. 

Joyce B. Phillips: Congratulations on the 30th anniversary of Modern Memoirs! Happy 20th anniversary to Ali! Best wishes to Sean and Megan for their 5-year ownership of Modern Memoirs. 

I feel so privileged that Modern Memoirs published three very special books for me to share with my family. It was such a rewarding experience working with Ali starting 14 years ago when the first book, The Magic Lantern Stories, started on its road to being published by Modern Memoirs. 

Gail Reimer: I can’t let this occasion go by without toasting your caring and the compassionate understanding you have for your clients, their words, and their aspirations. Wishing you continued success in assisting women and men shape and tell their stories.

Lydia Cartwright Rosen: I am so very grateful to Modern Memoirs, Inc. for helping me to bring my memoir, Mountain Springs, into existence. Ali de Groot, especially, applied her excellent editing skills to set up the format for portraying my personal essays, photography, and collage. I have been complimented many times over my handsome book of 176 pages, which I have given to friends and family and which has sold well at local stores and museums of Gold Country near Sierra City. Kudos to Modern Memoirs, Inc. 


“Wishes come true—Modern Memoirs makes them so.”

Stephen Rostand: A group of talented professionals who assisted me to express my life by guiding me on several voyages of self-discovery that are my memoirs. Their designers worked with me to produce books that are works of art


Robert Singleton: Congratulations on 30 years! And thanks for the memories!

Stephen F. Snyder: Cheers!

Janet Kipp Tribus: You helped me in an incredible way, sorting through all my slides and newspaper cutouts; the history of my art! I thank you for being “on top of it” and seeing 2 books published! I’m so grateful to Ali, especially.

Elizabeth Tan Tsai and Nien-Tszr “Tom” Tsai: Wishes come true—M.M. makes them so. Their staff are so fun, like vintage wine, I’ll drink to them! 

Rud Turnbull: Two memoirs, two superb experiences with Ali and her team. I am proud to be an alumnus and I was/still am proud of the work products you all helped from the very start to the very end. 

Cheers to 30 years! Many thanks to all who sent in Paper Toasts for our dinner. And…if you would like to leave an “e-Toast,” feel free to do so in the comments below.

Megan St. Marie (left) and Liz Sonnenberg (right) finishing the dining room setup at the Blue Heron Restaurant, Sunderland, Massachusetts, with clients' Paper Toasts hanging on the window and mirror

Genealogist Liz Sonnenberg (left) reads a Paper Toast, seated next to Bookkeeper Julie Shively

L-R: Kitty Axelson-Berry, Ali de Groot, and Emma Solis, enjoying the reading of clients’ Paper Toasts

Vice President Sean St. Marie reads a Paper Toast aloud to the Modern Memoirs staff and guests, with other cards waiting to be read behind him


A Toast to Julie, Emma, Nicole, and Liz at Modern Memoirs’ 30th Anniversary

On September 27, 2024, company owners Megan and Sean St. Marie hosted a dinner at the Blue Heron Restaurant in Sunderland, Massachusetts celebrating the 30th anniversary of Modern Memoirs. The following is a toast Megan gave in honor of Bookkeeper Julie Shively, departing Publishing Associate Emma Solis, Book Designer Nicole Miller, and Genealogist Liz Sonnenberg. 


Bookkeeper Julie Shively

Just as I can’t take credit for hiring Ali, I am indebted to Kitty for hiring the wonderful Julie Shively as bookkeeper. Julie, what would I do without you? May I never find out! As I toast your scrupulous way with numbers, your encouraging spirit, and your efficient yet patient manner during our weekly tête-à-têtes, I want to thank you from the bottom of my mathematically challenged heart for helping me navigate the financial and administrative side of the business. The systems you’ve created for our accounts, and your advocacy for our success, give me clarity and confidence, and I am forever grateful.

Publishing Associate Emma Solis

I do take credit for hiring the rest of our team, most recently, Emma Solis. Emma, we are all so sad to see you go, but we will cheer you on from Amherst as you spread your wings in New York City. I speak for the rest of the team when I say how much I’ve appreciated your willingness to dive into any task, and how much I’ve enjoyed the beautiful writing you’ve shared. Please keep in touch to let us know how things are going in the Big Apple, and never hesitate to send along your latest pieces of writing. You have so much to share with the world, and I am glad we got to play a part in the very beginning of your career.

Book Designer Nicole Miller, with one of the vases gifted to the staff at Modern Memoirs' 30th anniversary dinner

Speaking of New York City, Nicole Miller, when I contacted one of your references during the hiring process he said, “She belongs in New York, so you’re lucky if you can hire her. You’re not going to find many designers with Nicole’s level of talent around here. She’s a true artist.” Over the past three years, you’ve proven him right countless times, but I’ll say that you belong right here! You are an integral member of our team, and the frequent gasps and exclamations of delight that come from our staff upon viewing each new cover design or draft layout are testament to your talents. Your patient flexibility and openness to feedback enable you to serve even our most exacting clients, and your good humor and keen marketing insights benefit us all. Thank you, thank you, for all you do.

Megan St. Marie with Genealogist Liz Sonnenberg

Last but not least is the first person I hired, Liz Sonnenberg. Kitty said it was “beshert” or meant-to-be when we began discussing the business purchase. Liz, I think our meeting was beshert, too. I thank my lucky stars that you saw Sean’s name listed as company owner on the roster of a genealogy class he didn’t end up being able to complete when you were studying at BU. We think his enrollment was fate, if only to direct you to us. You appeared like someone heaven-sent as I struggled with how to complete the genealogy portion of a client project at the time. After seeing your extraordinary freelance work on that book, I told Sean, “She is so good, I’d be a fool to let her go!” Hiring you was a time when I really listened to my heart and did what I knew was right even though it wasn’t my initial plan. Thank you for your thoughtfulness, your passion, and the meticulous eye you bring to all you do. In the words of the childhood book-of-my-heart, Anne of Green Gables, you are a “kindred spirit.” I am so fortunate that my personal history includes knowing and working with you.

Cheers to all of you, the remarkable Modern Memoirs staff!


Megan St. Marie is president of Modern Memoirs, Inc.

A Toast to Ali’s 20 Years at Modern Memoirs, Inc.

Director of Publishing Ali de Groot (center) raising her glass during toasts at the company's 30th anniversary celebration, September 2024

On September 27, 2024, company owners Megan and Sean St. Marie hosted a dinner at the Blue Heron Restaurant in Sunderland, Massachusetts celebrating the 30th anniversary of Modern Memoirs. The following is a toast Megan gave to Director of Publishing Ali de Groot, who marks her 20th year of employment with the company this year, as well.


Ali at the Modern Memoirs 30th anniversary dinner

Ali, although I hope you know every day how grateful I am to have you as Director of Publishing at Modern Memoirs, I am glad to have this day to offer formal thanks for all you’ve done and continue to do on behalf of the company. Taking inspiration from your prior career with English language learners, and with apologies for any mispronunciation, I say:

Ali looking at a statue gifted to her in honor of her 20 years of employment at Modern Memoirs

Ali's dancer statue

Gracias—and specifically, muchísimas gracias for staying! Nothing obliged you to remain with the business when Sean and I assumed ownership, and it took a tremendous amount of generosity, trust, and openness on your part to give us a chance. Your steady presence allowed us to succeed, and your passion for your work enabled us to thrive.

Mercimerci mille fois for the care and skill you bring to your work each and every day. Not only have you shared your beautiful writing with us in myriad ways, two decades have given you expertise in every phase of the publishing process. Your high standards coupled with your meticulous, organized, thoughtful manner, give me absolute faith in your abilities and in your dedication to your craft and your job.

Shukranshukran jazilan for your downright magical way with potential clients. The strength of your relationships with former clients encourages them to return to us with new projects, and your belief in all we do translates into an extraordinary ability to recruit new writers to the business.

Ābhāra—for the sensitivity, warmth, and patience you bring to your client interactions—even when they pose challenges. It’s such a comfort to know that we can turn to each other at difficult moments, while also rejoicing in the many happy times of connection and joy that come with this work.

Murakoze—for your outstanding mentorship of your colleagues—including me. We’ve all learned so much from you, and that’s because you share your knowledge so willingly, delighting in others’ strengths and achievements, while bringing your own talents and creativity to all you do.

Xièxiè—for your warmth as a colleague and for advocating that we all take care of ourselves so that we can devote ourselves to our work in good health and good spirits.

And now, I’ll shift gears to say, Congratulations! Felicidades! Félicitations! Tahanina! Abhinandana! Twishimiye! Gōngxǐ! and a resounding Mazel Tov! on your 20 years with Modern Memoirs. Here’s to many more!


Megan St. Marie is president of Modern Memoirs, Inc.

A Toast to Company Founder Kitty Axelson-Berry at Modern Memoirs’ 30th Anniversary

Modern Memoirs staff and guests at the Blue Heron Restaurant celebrating the company's 30th anniversary, September 2024

On September 27, 2024, company owners Megan and Sean St. Marie hosted a dinner at the Blue Heron Restaurant in Sunderland, Massachusetts celebrating the 30th anniversary of Modern Memoirs. The following is a toast they gave in honor of founder and retired president,
Kitty Axelson-Berry.


Company founder Kitty Axelson-Berry at the dinner celebrating Modern Memoirs' 30th anniversary, September 2024

Sean: Kitty, on the occasion of Modern Memoirs’ 30th anniversary, it brings Megan and me great joy to have this opportunity to celebrate you. After all, Modern Memoirs would not exist without your vision, your guts, your talents, and your heart. We are honored to carry on the legacy you created because we share the core value on which it is premised: that sharing one’s life story and preserving family history are among the greatest gifts a person can give.

Kitty looking at a statue of a woman holding an open book, gifted to her in honor of Modern Memoirs' 30th anniversary

Megan: When you retired and we bought the company in 2019, we inherited a beautiful archive of books that you had a hand in creating, and with it a loyal and grateful client base that gave us the confidence we needed to succeed. Yours were impossibly big shoes to fill, however, and I admit I was shaking in my own boots when life threw us a curveball a few months after the sale of the business and Sean took his job at the Dickinson Museum instead of staying at Modern Memoirs with me on a day-to-day basis. With no background in business, and way too much on my plate in other parts of my life, I took inspiration from your entrepreneurial courage at some of my most anxious, overwhelmed moments and would say to myself, “I will not let Kitty down!” And although I was determined to respect your happy retirement, I also knew that you wanted the business to succeed under our ownership and that you would be there for me as I got my bearings and forged ahead.

Megan and Sean St. Marie

Sean: Under Megan’s leadership, we’ve strived to live up to the nurturing and supportive company culture you established as an employer, and to meet the high standards you held for both bookmaking and client relationships. You’ve told us that we’ve done you proud, and in return, we want to express our gratitude to you. Business ownership was not a dream of ours until we met you, and this unexpected chapter in our life story is one for which we are profoundly thankful.

Megan: Owning Modern Memoirs has enhanced our lives in both practical and intangible ways, and we want you to know, Kitty, that this is part of your legacy, too: you built something that has changed our family’s life story for the better, and that has, in turn, enabled us to offer fulfilling, purpose-driven work to our staff while continuing Modern Memoirs’ mission.

Sean: And at five years in, we’ve only just begun! You led this company for its first quarter-century, and we’ve had a fifth of that time to put our mark on it. We don’t know what the future holds, but the success we’ve enjoyed so far and the gratitude we feel for you and your vision fill us with optimism and inspiration.

Megan: So, let’s all raise a glass to Kitty, and to the thriving company she created, Modern Memoirs, Inc. Cheers to 30 years!


Photo by Jason Lamb Photography

Megan St. Marie is president of Modern Memoirs, Inc.

Lessons Learned at Modern Memoirs


Publishing Associate Emma Solis during her last week at Modern Memoirs in September 2024

A Farewell Blog Post by Publishing Associate Emma Solis

When I began working at Modern Memoirs, Inc. as Publishing Associate in May 2023, I had just graduated from Smith College, and my internship with the business the previous summer was my only real work experience. I am so happy that company president Megan St. Marie took a chance on hiring me because I can’t think of a better foundation for launching into my career and life as an adult. One year and four months later, I am unfortunately leaving my position to follow my partner and explore opportunities in New York City. My departure does not negate how grateful I am for the opportunities I had here, nor how much I enjoyed working within such a caring, supportive, and knowledgeable team. In the interest of preserving the valuable lessons I’ve learned, I have decided to enumerate them here. To college students and young adults looking to learn about or join the publishing industry, I hope this short list may provide a good starting point to see what lessons you may take away from an internship or first job with a small publisher like Modern Memoirs, Inc.

1. The devil really is in the details.

A book is a collection of countless details masquerading as a seamless unit, each detail so small and easy to overlook on its own. During my tenure as Publishing Associate, I have witnessed the mix of panic and relief that comes with catching a tiny mistake in the late-stage review process, or, more unfortunately, upon receiving proofs of the printed book. During one project, a client’s last-minute addition of a few extra sentences at the end of the chapter had added an extra page that was now missing a page number. We were able to catch the error and resolve it before printing the bulk run of books. This (thankfully unusual) experience taught me that you really cannot double-check enough times, even after receiving the book, and even if it looks perfect on the outside.

On the flip side, it was often the small details that took a book project from great to superb. These decisions often involved one staff member who had a particular insight into our client and knew how to include a feature that would delight them in the bookmaking process. Including colored endsheets, using a display font that hearkened to the client’s native language, or compiling a list of folksy sayings a client had used in his manuscript—these special touches were a product of the Modern Memoirs staff’s desire to make every book perfect for its particular client. It was deeply satisfying to hear a client’s rave response to details that arose from so much thought and care.

2.     Together Everyone Achieves More.

Modern Memoirs’ team truly embodies that acronym you sometimes see on motivational posters: “T.E.A.M: Together Everyone Achieves More.” President Megan St. Marie led our weekly team meetings with humor and warmth, encouraging every member to share their recent progress and struggles, and fostering a supportive, close-knit atmosphere.

Personally, I learned a great deal from every member of our small team. I often worked closely with Director of Publishing Ali de Groot and observed her extraordinary ability to connect deeply with our authors. Because she has written and published a memoir herself, she can offer boundless empathy, patience, and wisdom to our clients; because she is passionate about this work, she imbues it with fun and joy, especially when a client returns to express how much they loved their books!

My design skills have improved tenfold from working with Book Designer Nicole Miller, who brings endless innovation and energy to the Modern Memoirs team. She helped coach me through tricky InDesign features, gave me advice on analytics and marketing, and inspired me to develop a custom Online Author Page product by learning about CSS.

I felt I could always go to Genealogist Liz Sonnenberg for support due to her kind disposition and penchant for offering help. At team meetings, I was always fascinated by her explanations of what she had found in her genealogy research. It was a pleasure to watch her and President Megan St. Marie swap literature recommendations, and to hear about Megan’s latest research and writing projects. In general, the Modern Memoirs team is a deeply creative and passionate bunch, and the energy only grows when everyone is in a room all together.

Creative fields like writing can involve lots of time spent alone, and paths like freelance work don’t offer much outside support. Publishing, however, is a field that relies on constant communication and collaboration—just one reason I was interested in pursuing it! I was surprised and glad to find that much of my role over this year involved being a part of Modern Memoirs’ close-knit team, which appreciates and values the unique strengths of each member.

“I would sometimes come across a line of writing by a client that struck me—maybe the line would be about a recent loss, or connecting with a parent, or just being doubtful about the future—and I’d feel seen and comforted, knowing that someone else at some time had felt the same way.”

3. Everyone deserves to have their story told.

Before beginning my work at Modern Memoirs, I already believed in the value of being able to share one’s story. Writing is a means of connecting with others and broadening our horizons. However, I didn’t expect just how much I would be touched by the stories that came through Modern Memoirs. I found that the outlines of many of the narratives were similar—childhood, school, career, marriage, family—but the details the writer chose to include, and their perspectives, were all unique. I often thought about the writer’s family members and friends, who would treasure the intimate memories, photographs, and records within each book.

Loss is not something we like to dwell on, but it is another common factor of every person’s life story, like childhood and a career. Just a few months after I started at Modern Memoirs, I learned that my dad was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. Not having any other family history of cancer, I was shocked and gutted. Fortunately, my dad is still battling his cancer today, and is even able to travel from Texas to visit me. In the months that followed his diagnosis, though, nobody was sure what was to come. Being able to work from home at that time, which allowed me to travel and spend a month with my family, was critical to staying optimistic about the present and future. I felt so thankful to be at a company where I was encouraged to be with my family, and where Megan and Sean St. Marie had created a culture of sharing and support.

I was grateful for my role with Modern Memoirs at that time for one other reason: my work was unexpectedly helpful in dealing with the new changes in my life. In the course of my work, I would sometimes come across a line of writing by a client that struck me—maybe the line would be about a recent loss, or connecting with a parent, or just being doubtful about the future—and I’d feel seen and comforted, knowing that someone else at some time had felt the same way.

In that vein, people sometimes wonder why they should publish a memoir as an “average” person with experiences like those of many others. But I see the similarity of our experiences as a benefit, not a drawback. That similarity is what allows us to connect through something as small as a description of a feeling, or a retelling of an event. It is precisely what makes these memoirs so valuable, and what allows a family to feel close to an ancestor simply by reading about their life, never having met them in person.

4.     Good work feeds the soul.

With that said, my favorite part of working at Modern Memoirs, by far, is the sense of purpose I had in the knowledge that I helped bring someone’s story into the world. The days that we received advance books from the printer were like a birthday party, with the whole team gathering in the conference room to admire our collective work. I regard the books that I had more of a hand in with particular fondness, and I feel warm when thinking of them being enjoyed by the author’s family. The lovely notes and gifts we often received after completing a project bolstered the sentiment that our work is truly important and valued.

As I say goodbye to Modern Memoirs, I am confident that the company will continue to grow and thrive for years to come. I look forward to keeping in touch to see how the close-knit team I value so much will mentor new interns and publishing associates, forge intimate connections with authors, and bring new stories into the world as distinctive, beautiful books.


Reflections from Modern Memoirs Director of Publishing Ali de Groot, Part 2

Director of Publishing Alison “Ali” de Groot began her official employment at Modern Memoirs in September 2004. In honor of her 20th anniversary this year, we are presenting a two-part blog series in which we asked de Groot to reflect on two books of her own. Last month, in Part 1, she discussed Learning to Speak, a bereavement book dedicated to her mother, which de Groot published herself in 1999. In Part 2 below, we look into The Reader’s Chair: An Anthology of Memoirs-in-Progress, edited by de Groot and published by Modern Memoirs in 2018.


In 2002 Kitty Axelson-Berry, the founder of Modern Memoirs, launched First Person! First Night!, a place for writers in the Amherst, Massachusetts area to gather on a monthly, drop-in basis. On the first night of every month, writers were invited to read aloud their works-in-progress. The group, facilitated by Ali de Groot and Linda Stenlund, had anywhere from four to ten participants and met faithfully at the Modern Memoirs office for thirteen years, until 2015.

To honor this group, Axelson-Berry and de Groot envisioned creating an anthology of pieces written by longtime members. The Reader’s Chair is an informal collection of these writings. In the book’s Introduction, de Groot describes how, to prepare for each monthly gathering, she and her co-facilitator would “set up a bunch of mismatched chairs in a tight circle and place an old flexible floor lamp next to the designated reading chair, a frayed pink upholstered affair that had belonged to Kitty’s mother.” Today, over twenty years later, the reading chair remains a cherished piece of furniture in the Modern Memoirs office.

1. How does this anthology reflect the breadth of life experiences and writing styles that memoir can encompass?

Ali de Groot: I believe memoir writing can come in all shapes and sizes. Since life is full of experiences that are impossible to fit into one style, a memoir can be anything the writer wants it to be. I’m not talking about commercial “bestseller” memoirs. I’m talking about what we focused on in our group: personal, authentic, raw writing in whatever form it might take—a story, a letter, a poem, a dream, even a to-do list.

2. On one of the first pages of the book, you include a quote by Anaïs Nin: “We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect.” How do these words convey the essence of memoir writing?

“Writing is a free journey, a window into understanding on a deeper level.”

Ali de Groot: One of my favorite writers in high school was Nin, so I had to include this well-known quote. When I read her published diaries, I realized that journal writing was really a form of memoir. As an avid journaler myself, I came to value this style of writing. For me, memoir writing is a powerful way to relive and make sense of an event after it has happened, be it positive or negative, important or inconsequential. Writing is a free journey, a window into understanding on a deeper level. And it allows me to face things I might not have wanted to face, and learn things about myself or others that I didn’t know.

3. As you describe in the Introduction: “We would devote some time after each person’s reading for constructive feedback from listeners, if desired, but ‘literary’ critique was discouraged and almost nonexistent. After all, these were usually raw and unedited pieces, sometimes read directly from a journal, a notebook, letters, even scrap paper. I think the majority of us had no intention of publishing our work (or even re-reading or revising it), although most of us were writing abundantly during those years.” What is an advantage to doing this type of writing, as opposed to working and re-working the actual chapters of a book? What is the advantage to this type of initial feedback?

Ali de Groot: Back to the journaling topic, this kind of writing is simply a way to get snapshots of the mind. It’s immediate, accessible, and you don’t have to analyze, edit, analyze, edit, etc. and drive yourself nuts trying to figure out the “best” way to say it. In my view, the “best” way doesn’t always live up to the most authentic way to say something.

The point of reading aloud wasn’t to get feedback. It was to have witnesses to a story in real time. A kind of magic happens for the reader (and the listener) in this setting. The feedback was secondary. Living in a very literary town like ours, I admit I wanted to avoid looking like a group of aspiring authors. In fact, when occasionally someone’s feedback got too scholarly, personal, inquisitive, or preachy, it was a big damper and we would have to steer the comments in a different direction. I think we just wanted motivation to write and reflect, with minimal feedback, the sort that makes you want to return the next time and helps you enjoy writing for writing’s sake.

4. Since writers in the group weren’t necessarily interested in publishing their work, how did you end up deciding to create the anthology? Can you describe the publication process?

Ali de Groot: It was Kitty (my then-boss) who initiated the concept, and I ran with it. I had one day a month to work on a personal project, so I decided to use that time to work on the anthology. First I had to solicit submissions, which was difficult because we didn’t even have an email list of people who had attended over the thirteen years! I knew a handful of people’s email addresses and contacted them. I wanted more people, but in the end I only had submissions from five. Although I gave deadlines for each step, it all naturally took longer than I thought. Kitty and I did a cursory proofread of all the pieces, but NO editing, keeping in line with our philosophy of keeping the writing raw and authentic. I designed the book, and we went to print, ordering just enough copies for each of the five members, who requested anywhere from two to twenty copies.

A bittersweet thing that happened later—there was one member, a close friend of mine, who initially didn’t even want to pick up her two copies. She had been in the group since its inception but was very humble and hesitant to let anyone know about the book. Around four years later, she became ill and passed away. We read some of her original poems at the funeral. And can you imagine what happened when people found out that she had been writing poems, stories, and journals for decades? They all wanted copies of the book. I’ve ordered reprints for her family and friends. So this book continues to honor her and proclaim to all those who knew her what a devoted writer she was. It’s a little glimpse into her soul.

5. If a writer does not have access to this type of group, what is the next best thing they can do to get themselves “writing abundantly”?

Ali de Groot: Form a group! Get a writing buddy! Even a virtual partner on Zoom! Make time to write on a regular basis (duh). Journal every day. (I don’t write every day.) Let yourself loose, and don’t think about anyone ever reading it. Explore verse, rhyme, lists, letters, minutes, shorthand, any kind of writing. Try writing in another language, writing with your opposite hand, writing in pen, pencil, marker, or on a keyboard. Look at a photo and write. Look at a painting and write. Look at what’s right in front of you and write. You’ll be surprised at what comes out.

The editor (with newly published book) sitting in the actual reader's chair at former office of Modern Memoirs, 2018

The reader’s chair, originally Kitty’s mother’s chair, as it sits in the Modern Memoirs office today, 2024


Liz Sonnenberg is genealogist for Modern Memoirs, Inc.